Replace OrdinaryDiffEq dep with SciMLBase

[juliasloan25]

Recently, OrdinaryDiffEq usage was replaced by SciMLBase and DiffEqCallbacks in ClimaLSM. This greatly decreased precompilation time, cutting CI times by nearly half. I think we can do the same in the coupler.

This as also attempted in ClimaAtmos, but they weren't able to completely remove ODE as a dependency because they use some algorithms and types defined in ODE but not in SciMLBase (see PR there for details). I don't think we'll run into that issue here.

Update: As of 25 October, ClimaAtmos has removed their ODE.jl dependency, so it will be worth it for us to re-attempt this

[juliasloan25]

closed by #526