Enable placing ProxyActor to specific Nodes

[NKcqx]

ProxyActor need a external port to send / recv RPCs across parties, and in many senarioes, the port can only be opened on certain Nodes for safety reasons.
However, as a Ray Actor, the inner proxy actor is hidden by RayFed and can't be explicitly placed.

[NKcqx]

The solution is: using ActorClass.options to declare ProxyActor's resources so that it can be scheduled (by Ray) to certain Nodes having that resources.

The plan is:

1. [1/N] Gives a parameter to set ProxyActor's resource.
2. [2/N] As there're too many ProxyActor related configs in fed.init, merging them into one "XXConfig" entity and exposing as a whole to user.