Don't run slow/expensive CI jobs if faster jobs fail

[glhewett]

I am looking for a faster CI, and these were some obvious updates to make. Actually, I could not stop making changes. Here is a list of the changes in this PR.

1. I have created dependencies between the jobs. This required consolidating the jobs into one workflow file. If the clang-format fails, the rest of the job will not run. Next, I have added the interop job as a gate to do the platform jobs. This job will not use sanitizers, but it should be a quick test of openssl1, openssl2, and interop. Once those two jobs succeed, then we will move on to the full platform tests with sanitizer and tidy.
2. I have updated most of the actions to the latest, greatest.
3. I have moved the vcpgk caching to cache the binaries instead of the installed dependencies. This is a feature of vcpkg and should be very efficient. Since we do not have vcpkg locked as a submodule, then we might have to rebuild some dependencies an update cache from time to time, but vcpkg does not take a long time. Also, by consolidating the jobs, we have reduced a bit of the vcpkg repetition.
4. We will not run the longer running jobs if it in draft status (not ready_for_review)

[bifurcation]

Nit: The names of the CI tasks are inconsistent. I would suggest:

• Capitalize the first word, lower case thereafter
• Use "OpenSSL 1.1" and "OpenSSL 3" consistently

jobs:
  formatting-check:
    name: Formatting check

  quick-linux-interop-check:
    needs: formatting-check
    name: Quick Linux Check and Interop
    runs-on: ubuntu-latest
    - name: Dependencies (ubuntu)
    - name: Restore cache
    - name: Configure (OpenSSL 1.1)
    - name: Build (OpenSSL 1.1)
    - name: Test (OpenSSL 1.1)
    - name: Build (Interop Harness)
    - name: Test self-interop
    - name: Test interop on test vectors
    - name: Test gRPC live interop with self
    - name: Configure (OpenSSL 3)
    - name: Build (OpenSSL 3)
    - name: Unit tests (OpenSSL 3)

  platform-sanitizer-tests:
    needs: quick-linux-interop-check
    name: Build and test platforms using sanitizers and clang-tidy

    steps:
    - name: Dependencies (macos)
    - name: Dependencies (ubuntu)
    - name: Restore cache
    - name: Configure (OpenSSL 1.1)
    - name: Build (OpenSSL 1.1)
    - name: Test (OpenSSL 1.1)
    - name: Configure (OpenSSL 3)
    - name: Build (OpenSSL 3)
    - name: Test (OpenSSL 3)

[bifurcation]

Also it seems like we have Configure/Build/Test everywhere except for the interop harness, which only has Build/Test. Let's consolidate the Configure/Build steps into just Build.

[glhewett]

Great feedback. I had not taken the higher level view yet. I have responded to all of you feedback.