[oss] Don't retry mutations (#26085)

## Summary & Motivation

as titled.


## How I Tested These Changes

hardcoded mutations to return an error and saw us hit this codepath
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src="https://github.com/user-attachments/assets/4addb93f-b5ad-461d-99c1-5068effd5844">

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[ui] In OSS, mutations are no longer retried.

js_modules/dagster-ui/packages/app-oss/src/App.tsx

@@ -33,6 +33,7 @@ const config = {
   origin: process.env.NEXT_PUBLIC_BACKEND_ORIGIN || document.location.origin,
   telemetryEnabled,
   statusPolling: new Set<DeploymentStatusType>(['code-locations', 'daemons']),
+  idempotentMutations: false,
 };
 
 const appCache = createAppCache();

js_modules/dagster-ui/packages/ui-core/src/app/AppProvider.tsx

@@ -1,6 +1,6 @@
 import {RetryLink} from '@apollo/client/link/retry';
 import {WebSocketLink} from '@apollo/client/link/ws';
-import {getMainDefinition} from '@apollo/client/utilities';
+import {getMainDefinition, isMutationOperation} from '@apollo/client/utilities';
 import {CustomTooltipProvider} from '@dagster-io/ui-components';
 import * as React from 'react';
 import {useContext} from 'react';
@@ -67,6 +67,7 @@ export interface AppProviderProps {
     origin: string;
     telemetryEnabled?: boolean;
     statusPolling: Set<DeploymentStatusType>;
+    idempotentMutations?: boolean;
   };
 
   // Used for localStorage/IndexedDB caching to be isolated between instances/deployments
@@ -82,6 +83,7 @@ export const AppProvider = (props: AppProviderProps) => {
     origin,
     telemetryEnabled = false,
     statusPolling,
+    idempotentMutations = true,
   } = config;
 
   // todo dish: Change `deleteExisting` to true soon. (Current: 1.4.5)
@@ -112,7 +114,10 @@ export const AppProvider = (props: AppProviderProps) => {
     return new RetryLink({
       attempts: {
         max: 3,
-        retryIf: async (error, _operation) => {
+        retryIf: async (error, operation) => {
+          if (!idempotentMutations && isMutationOperation(operation.query)) {
+            return false;
+          }
           if (error && error.statusCode && httpStatusCodesToRetry.has(error.statusCode)) {
             return true;
           }