Backport of sdk/db: do not hold the lock on Close into release/1.18.x

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Backport

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Description

This fixes a bug between the Vault grpc client and the plugin grpc server. This is related to slow database session End calls which could be slow network or database limits. When we see a slow Database session close, this is enough for goroutines to be blocked and prevent a new database config from being created due to an internal timeout on the plugin in the Type() call. This produces the following error in Vault:

error creating database object: invalid database version: 2 errors occurred: 
  * error getting plugin type: unable to get database plugin type: rpc error: code = DeadlineExceeded desc = context deadline exceeded
  * Incompatible API version with plugin. Plugin version: 5, Client versions: [3 4]

TODO only if you're a HashiCorp employee

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