Use tool.scikit-build.cmake.version, set scikit-build-core minimum-version

[jameslamb]

Contributes to rapidsai/build-planning#58.

scikit-build-core==0.10.0 was released today (https://github.com/scikit-build/scikit-build-core/releases/tag/v0.10.0), and wheel-building configurations across RAPIDS are incompatible with it.

This proposes upgrading to that version and fixing configuration here in a way that:

• is compatible with that new scikit-build-core version
• takes advantage of the forward-compatibility mechanism (minimum-version) that scikit-build-core provides, to reduce the risk of needing to do this again in the future

[jameslamb]

CI is in a bad state here, I don't think it's a result of this PR's changes.

We'll need to merge rapidsai/devcontainers#377 to fix the devcontainers builds. And then these others to fix other parts of CI:

• Address cudf.DataFrame.insert API change #1428
• Pass columns instead of Series to cudf.DataFrame in split-combine workflow #1429

I'll check back on this after merging those, before putting this up for review.

[jameslamb]

Reported the test failures in #1433.

The changes in this PR are ready for review.

[jakirkham]

Restarting failed CI jobs now that devcontainers have been updated

[jakirkham]

/merge

[jameslamb]

This will be blocked until #1434 is complete

[vyasr]

Restarted again now that #1434 is merged.