Use tool.scikit-build.cmake.version, set scikit-build-core minimum-version

[jameslamb]

Contributes to rapidsai/build-planning#58.

scikit-build-core==0.10.0 was released today (https://github.com/scikit-build/scikit-build-core/releases/tag/v0.10.0), and wheel-building configurations across RAPIDS are incompatible with it.

This proposes upgrading to that version and fixing configuration here in a way that:

• is compatible with that new scikit-build-core version
• takes advantage of the forward-compatibility mechanism (minimum-version) that scikit-build-core provides, to reduce the risk of needing to do this again in the future

[jameslamb]

The devcontainers build should be fixed once rapidsai/devcontainers#377 is merged. Otherwise, this is ready for review.

[jakirkham]

Restarting failed CI jobs now that devcontainers have been updated

[jakirkham]

/merge

[jameslamb]

One devcontainers job was failing here, in a way that looked like maybe a temporary issue with the runner it got scheduled onto. I've restarted that job.